What NOT to do during Meditation

About 3 years ago I was an Associate Director of Administration at an art complex near Wynwood Miami.

With this title came a great deal of responsibility, and it was the very reason why I started having anxiety attacks.

At that time, I felt that a steady meditation practice would surely cure my anxiety.

So I started meditating…everywhere, at all times.

I began meditating every single morning, then again right before leaving my house to go to work.

At work I would take bathroom breaks that were secretly “meditation breaks.”

I would meditate right before an important meeting and before presentations and tours.

I used any excuse to close my eyes, shut myself off from reality, and cozy up into my inner world where I felt safe and comfort.

My inner world became my escape from reality. I guess you can say my drug of choice was meditation.

All that meditation was good for me during this time because I was experiencing a critical moment in my physical reality, and I had to seriously do a lot of inner work.

The problem I began to have was when I began wishing for change.

I knew that I wanted to be a full time artist, to start my own business, be my own boss.

That idea created a lot of stress for me because I wasn’t sure how I was going to make that a reality, given the facts of my current situation.

My dream life felt SO DISTANT, like there was a huge gap from where I was to where I wanted to be.

As a student of the law of attraction, I knew the steps required to manifesting anything in life. I knew that in order to manifest, you have to feel that you already have it.

The problem was that I felt negative emotion with the dream life I was after.

I thought that more meditation meant I was closer to making my dreams come true. So during my practice, I began to think about what I wanted.

I started asking the universe for help, to make it happen faster…I felt desperate.

Thinking about what I wanted only made things worse for me because when I opened my eyes, my situation was still the same.

Meditation went from feeling like my favorite drug to feeling like I overdosed.

It wasn’t long after this cycle of mixed emotions was finally cleared up for me.

My desires switched from wanting something physical to wanting a feeling of relief.

I began to listen to the Teachings of Abraham on YouTube. Video after video I learned SO MUCH about the process of manifesting and the true reason why we should meditate.

I put it all into practice, and with time I was able to better balance my emotions. I learned that what people truly want in life is a feeling, an emotion.

As Abraham puts it, the things you want in life is because you think you will feel better when you have them.

The lesson I learned was this:

Don’t meditate to make something happen.

Meditation and visualization are 2 things that should be done separately.

Meditation is meant to give you relief, to let go of resistance.

I’m not saying you can’t think about the things you want…just do it if it feels good. If you have mixed feelings about your desires, don’t force yourself to try and solve it during meditation.

Today, I work as a full time artist in my home studio, I started my own business, I know how to balance my mind, body and heart, and more importantly I am able to teach others about what my practice has taught me.

The journey to enlightenment is different for everyone. No matter what stage you’re in, allow your emotions to guide you.

We are all at different stages in our personal evolution, and I’m happy to be able to share my experience so that it can help you in your journey.

I’d love to hear from you!

Have you come across a bump in the road with your meditation practice? If so, please share in the comments below.

Also, feel free to share this with someone who might also be struggling with their practice.

Sending you love from my heart to yours,

💋 Mari Medina

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Overwhelmed? 5 Steps to clarity

Hello my lovelies,

I’ve been under a mental hibernation.

For a month I played tug-a-war with SO MANY  brilliant Pinterest ideas and saved screen shots from google searches that I took myself to a real place called “overwhelm.”

Talk about information overload!

I found myself inside my studio…sketches, magazine clipping and notes all around…I felt dizzy.

I couldn’t get myself to focus on ONE specific thing.

Everything seemed so important!

Time was ticking and there was money on the line…

As uncomfortable as this situation may seem, anytime I’m on the verge of insanity I KNOW I’m about to have some sort of break through.

Having had this experience before, I knew that the only way to refocus my energy is to stop, get up, and get out.

So for about 3 days I closed up my studio and got my body moving & into nature.

Sitting in front of the ocean I’d close my eyes, taking deep breaths in, and on the exhale I’d ask out loud:

What do I REALLY want?

What outcome am I reaching for here?

As soon as I shifted the direction of my focus, (which was on to the outcome) I started receiving answers.

Not only did I know exactly what project to tackle first, but a sense of relief washed all over my mind & body. I placed my hands on my heart, enjoying the appreciation I was feeling.

I share this story with you to help you see that clarity and focus comes to you when you know exactly what outcome you want.

Not sure what outcome you want?
Tony Robbins says it best:

“Ask better quality questions, to get quality answers.”

When your mind is asking lousy questions, as he puts it, it’ll reach for lousy answers!

So what outcome was I looking for?

CLARITY.

Clarity in my work process, momentum, ease, and flow. Once I connected to those emotions, I knew deep down in my heart what projects to take on first.


PRACTICE THIS next time you visit the land of overwhelm:

1) Acknowledge how you feel.

2) Get yourself out of the space that’s causing you to feel that way, and into a peaceful environment (like in nature or a zen space in your home).

3) Do deep breathing exercises to calm your mind & body.

4) When ready, ask out loud quality questions about the outcome you want.

5) Be open to allow your heart to guide and serve you, & you’ll soon receive the answers you’re looking for.


Be easy about this, the key here is to learn how to shift your energy from overwhelm to clarity.

May take a few days, but the more you practice, the better you’ll get.

Also, don’t push the process.

The more you push to try and resolve something, the less you’ll be able to tackle it from your heart.

I sure hope this was helpful!

If you found it useful and know someone who could use this advice, express your love & share it!

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Thanks so much for reading,

Sending you clarity & love from my heart to yours!

💋 Mari Medina