What NOT to do during Meditation

About 3 years ago I was an Associate Director of Administration at an art complex near Wynwood Miami.

With this title came a great deal of responsibility, and it was the very reason why I started having anxiety attacks.

At that time, I felt that a steady meditation practice would surely cure my anxiety.

So I started meditating…everywhere, at all times.

I began meditating every single morning, then again right before leaving my house to go to work.

At work I would take bathroom breaks that were secretly “meditation breaks.”

I would meditate right before an important meeting and before presentations and tours.

I used any excuse to close my eyes, shut myself off from reality, and cozy up into my inner world where I felt safe and comfort.

My inner world became my escape from reality. I guess you can say my drug of choice was meditation.

All that meditation was good for me during this time because I was experiencing a critical moment in my physical reality, and I had to seriously do a lot of inner work.

The problem I began to have was when I began wishing for change.

I knew that I wanted to be a full time artist, to start my own business, be my own boss.

That idea created a lot of stress for me because I wasn’t sure how I was going to make that a reality, given the facts of my current situation.

My dream life felt SO DISTANT, like there was a huge gap from where I was to where I wanted to be.

As a student of the law of attraction, I knew the steps required to manifesting anything in life. I knew that in order to manifest, you have to feel that you already have it.

The problem was that I felt negative emotion with the dream life I was after.

I thought that more meditation meant I was closer to making my dreams come true. So during my practice, I began to think about what I wanted.

I started asking the universe for help, to make it happen faster…I felt desperate.

Thinking about what I wanted only made things worse for me because when I opened my eyes, my situation was still the same.

Meditation went from feeling like my favorite drug to feeling like I overdosed.

It wasn’t long after this cycle of mixed emotions was finally cleared up for me.

My desires switched from wanting something physical to wanting a feeling of relief.

I began to listen to the Teachings of Abraham on YouTube. Video after video I learned SO MUCH about the process of manifesting and the true reason why we should meditate.

I put it all into practice, and with time I was able to better balance my emotions. I learned that what people truly want in life is a feeling, an emotion.

As Abraham puts it, the things you want in life is because you think you will feel better when you have them.

The lesson I learned was this:

Don’t meditate to make something happen.

Meditation and visualization are 2 things that should be done separately.

Meditation is meant to give you relief, to let go of resistance.

I’m not saying you can’t think about the things you want…just do it if it feels good. If you have mixed feelings about your desires, don’t force yourself to try and solve it during meditation.

Today, I work as a full time artist in my home studio, I started my own business, I know how to balance my mind, body and heart, and more importantly I am able to teach others about what my practice has taught me.

The journey to enlightenment is different for everyone. No matter what stage you’re in, allow your emotions to guide you.

We are all at different stages in our personal evolution, and I’m happy to be able to share my experience so that it can help you in your journey.

I’d love to hear from you!

Have you come across a bump in the road with your meditation practice? If so, please share in the comments below.

Also, feel free to share this with someone who might also be struggling with their practice.

Sending you love from my heart to yours,

💋 Mari Medina

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How to Meditate & why – 5 Benefits

***Everything I’m about to share is based on my own personal experience, and how I’ve come to understand meditation. 

When I talk to people about meditation, they usually ask me if they’re doing it right. My answer is always the same: THERE IS NO RIGHT WAY. There is only YOUR WAY.

You see, every single person is living a unique experience that is totally their own. Wherever you are on your journey, this article serves as a basic understanding of what meditation is, and how it benefits you in your life.

There are many ways you can approach meditation, just know that there is no single right way to go about it. Only thing you need to do is decide to commit to a practice and start exploring which way works best for you. 

First, let’s talk about what meditation is.

Meditation is the practice of becoming fully present within your body, focusing on your senses and using your breath to guide the process for a steady amount of time.

 

This is the very basic way of meditating, which is the one I’ve used for a few years now. Here’s how I do it:

HOW TO MEDITATE

  • Sit comfortably (doesn’t matter where: chair, sofa, bed, cross-legged on the floor…)
  • Close your eyes, begin to take deep breaths in, and slow breaths out
  • Once you’ve got a steady rhythm in your breathing, guide your mind to start noticing your senses (sounds, smells, the way the clothes feels on your skin…)
  • Next, beginning at the top of your head, start to feel out every single muscle, bone, and joint, relaxing everything along the way that feels tense/ tight.
  • Next, try to get a sense of your internal organs. Think about the placement of your lungs, your stomach, your intestines. Put your awareness on your heart and keep breathing deeply.
  • As you become fully relaxed, SMILE and sit in the stillness you’ve created, aware of your senses, and fully present in the moment for as long as you can. I go for about 10-15 minutes
  • When you’re ready, open your eyes, and enjoy the high! 

pro tip:
If you find your mind drifting into a stream of thoughts, be easy about it and bring it back to your breathing. This always happens to me, but with practice I’ve been able to better manage the direction my mind goes in.

As I mentioned, this is a basic approach to meditation.

There are many ways you can enhance your sensory experience during meditation.
Some people use guided meditations, sound bowls, zen music, essential oils, candles, or incense during their practice. All those are instruments you can use to help guide your mind to focus on your senses.

Why meditate? 

The practice of stillness enhances your life experience. You’ll be more aware of your body, mind, and energy.

TOP 5 BENEFITS OF MEDITATING 

  1. Meditation builds a healthy relationship with your body
    Rather than waiting for your body to show you signs of malnutrition, getting in touch with your body is about communicating with your cells and listening/ paying attention to the signals of what your body needs (water, nutrients, exercise)
  2. Meditation helps open up a sensory dialogue
    Your senses are there for a reason! Becoming aware of your senses enhances everything you do, making the experience of life WAY more enjoyable! Even something as simple as washing dishes can be an enhanced experience!
  3. Meditation connects you to your emotional guidance system
    Your emotions are a clear indication if something is off in your body. If you are feeling bad most of the time, chances are your body is lacking in nutrients or exercise. Also, if you are feeling negative emotion on a regular basis, it just means you’ve got a habit of feeling that way. You can totally amp up your vibe with a simple meditation practice.
  4. Meditation balances your thoughts
    The mind is very powerful and if you have no control over it, it will control you and your life! Thinking thoughts is something you CAN’T stop doing. Even as you  meditate, your thinking about something. The key is to get the mind to focus on your senses.
  5. Meditation helps control your reaction in every situation
    There are things in life far beyond your control. Once upon a time, we faced lions. In today’s world, the lions we face are given different names. Just like the lions however, we are capable of producing the same emotions in our body when faced with challenges. Today, we call those lions stress, fear, guilt, shame…but not to worry! The more you stick with your practice, the more your power will rule over those nasty lions!

I hope this basic guide has inspired you to begin your meditation practice, (if you haven’t already), so you can find that connection to your senses and better express your love in every area of your life.

 

Remember, the journey is different for everyone, and with practice you’ll improve over time, making meditation easier and enjoyable! 

Have tips of your own? 

I’d love to hear about your meditation tips! Feel free to share in the comments below.

Also, share if you have a friend that would love to know more about meditating. This is a conversation I’m happy to continue, so let me know if you have any questions!

Sending you love from my heart to yours,

Mari Medina